FAQs and 'Julia glossary'!
Below is a list of questions I’m often asked about my work. Also included is a glossary of certain key terms I often use in my work or my writing, taken from the language of the many techniques I have used over the years. For those of you unfamiliar with these terms, my glossary should help with understanding the ideas I work with. Please contact me if you’d like any more added and explained!
Who does Julia normally work with?
Julia has worked with people from all walks of life. Whether your goals lie in business development, your sport, a desire to enhance family life, your general health and fitness, personal growth – maybe you have reached a crossroads and want to explore which direction your experiences to date demonstrate you could be going in – in times of tragedy, crisis and change, if you are struggling with addictive behaviours, if you are feeling stressed and unhappy, if you are sad and grieving a loss: or if you simply desire to learn skills to help you live with more creativity and understanding.
What happens in a session?
The process begins with an exploration of how you arrived where you are in your life now, your ideas and your beliefs, and the stories you tell about yourself and your experiences – as well as those that others tell about you. She will look with you at the cultural and family beliefs that you live by. Through this process you will become aware of your own map – your paradigm – your own orientation in the world.
She will encourage and coach you to view situations, events and conversations from multiple perspectives, and through this process become more aware, learning skills to help you manage yourself effectively in any situation, however challenging.
She helps you to take responsibility for your own process and to unravel any negative self talk that is holding you back from realising your dreams and goals – anything that is blocking your ability to live as fully as you would like.
Where do the sessions take place?
Most of Julia’s work takes place in Eastbourne, but travel can be negotiated. There is also the possibility of working remotely with Julia – please see next question.
Is one-to-one coaching in person the only option?
Sessions with Julia are usually on a one-to-one basis, but working with couples together is also common, particularly if the focus is on relationship.Work is in person on most occasions, but phone sessions and email support, either to back up work already done or as a stand-alone option, are also available. Work can even be done remotely through Skype or similar.
What techniques does Julia use?
Essentially, Julia works with the individual’s own process – guiding and coaching them to the threshold of their own understanding, through a mixture of techniques, which she uses intuitively as required. Julia’s background is in systemic psychotherapy– looking at the social construction of the individual, and the beliefs and stories they hold from that – but her ‘tool bag’ also includes some cognitive behavioural techniques, sports psychology, Ericsonian hypnotherapy, NLP, and Imago techniques amongst others.
Julia works at the core level – examining the deep down beliefs we have internalised from our childhood reactions to met and unmet needs, and the adaptations that we have created for ourselves to survive and how that affects us in life.
Julia is an intuitive and holistic coach, work with the person to manifest and create the best possible future for them.
How many sessions am I likely to need?
This very much depends! The format of the work will depend on your needs, but it is usual to spend the first session exploring the current situation, in order to establish the best way for Julia to help you and to work out a way together to go forward.
How much does working with Julia cost?
The cost of sessions depends on the type of coaching required, please contact Julia for more details.
Julia’s work aims to facilitate change at the ‘core’ of your being. Some physical activities, such as yoga or pilates, work on core strength in the body, leading to improved balance and stability. Core therapy works in the same way, improving balance and stability in the mind through an understanding of the way we create our reality. It is about gaining self-knowledge and regaining control of the mind. If you address the stories and beliefs that are at the core of your being, you will gain access to your true self, be able to express your true nature without fear and so live creatively and authentically
Everything is created though dialogue, in the spaces between us, and Julia has a unique gift for being able to reflect back to you what is happening within your world, enable you to see it for yourself and develop the skills to make it work for you. We make up the stories that shape our relationships and our futures in the spaces between us. It is through authentic one-on-one dialogue that we really grow and connect, both to one another and to the lost parts of ourselves.
Being intentional is the opposite to being reactive, which I would define as acting without pausing to reflect on the cause of our reaction. Being intentional in our thoughts, actions and behaviours means reflecting on our past and how it shapes both the now and our future. With awareness we become more conscious of our patterns and anything that may be causing pain, either to ourselves or to another. Noticing is the first step towards intentional living, towards self-reflectivity rather than reactivity.
Our own map – how we see the world, as we are rather than what how it is. If we explore our own patterns and beliefs and stories we find out what our paradigm is. Stephen Covey sums it up well: ‘Our paradigms are the sources of our attitudes and behaviour, and ultimately our relationships with others.’
We live in a world of polarity. The Yin and the Yang. Light cannot exist without dark, day without night, joy without sadness, love without hate. Understanding this means we can work to embrace our shadow side and bring it into the light of our awareness, integrating the two aspects within us and without leads to us finding our centre and to living in balance.
An engagement with ourselves, the ‘process’ of gaining awareness of ourselves and creating a preferred future is ongoing and unique to each of us. Communication is key – a fluid, alive process that is happening all the time and therefore needs a certain flexibility and athleticism to engage with truly. The way you communicate in the moment extends far beyond that moment and ultimately defines your world – your culture, your past and your future. We are making our lives up as we go. If you want a different response, you must change your way of communicating and Julia gives you the tools with which to do this. This is the basis and the magic of her work. Everything is created though dialogue, in the spaces between us, and Julia has a unique gift for being able to reflect back to you what is happening within your world and enable you to see it for yourself and develop the skills to make it work for you.
The inner dialogue that goes on in our minds – often, or usually, unconsciously all the time, and often what then comes out in words. Start to tune into it and you will see how you shape what happens by how you think.
A shift is a paradigm shift – when you are able to move perspective and really see something differently, a shift of position, but at the same time, a shift happens inside, when you let go of some stuff or let go of hanging on to old pain or resentment or anger or hatred. A shift happens when an old wound is accessed and healing begins, the feeling as this happens is a shift.
This is our centre. The state where we feel in balance, where we are free of ‘stuff’. The still point can be accessed through meditation – or through focusing on the breath and noticing the still point before we breathe in again. The better we look after our emotional and physical health the easier it will be to find our centre – and the more we will notice when we get thrown out of it.
Is any blocks to our clarity. When we spend time accessing where we have unhealed emotional wounds or have frustrations from our needs not being fully met in childhood, we will find patches of pain and reactivity, when our reaction to a situation doesn’t match what is actually happening, when we project our own image or disowned self onto others, this is when ‘stuff’ shows itself, the more we work on our process, the less stuff we will have and the less reactive we are –and living with consciousness and being intentional becomes easier.
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“The answers are already there, its just drawing them from within, be it painful to revisit hurts buried in the past… I call it ‘Julia Magic’.”