Relationship and couples work
“Julia has helped us to build a positive relationship from the beginning and to make our communication positive and constructive. She introduced us at an early stage to the idea of the conscious relationship. That has been important in our understanding of how our individual pasts influence the way we relate to each other in the present. Julia has been there at each stage, guiding our efforts to develop the relationship we want to have.”
SW & NA, Eastbourne
What is this thing we call relationship? Everyone would like to be able to engage and connect authentically with those around us. It is separation and disconnection that causes pain, and a lack of understanding that causes conflict, breakdown of communication and, potentially, a loss of love.
Working with relationship is the foundation of all Julia’s work. The starting point towards more deeply satisfying relationships with others is your relationship with yourself, and Julia can help improve this by working with you to develop an understanding of how you respond, why you think and behave as you do, and where you first got the ideas and beliefs that you live your life by.
Julia’s work incorporates, amongst other techniques, ideas inspired by the Imago model of relationship therapy, which is based on the idea that you unconsciously choose a partner with similar positive and negative traits to those who cared for you as a child, in the belief that this partner can help you heal unresolved pain from childhood. So many of us carry the pain of childhood and past relationships with us and so our scars are always ready to be activated by new situations, which in truth may be completely unrelated to where we are now.
If we understand this then an intimate relationship can become an area of growth as we uncover and heal old wounds and areas of pain. We have to know that another can reflect these pains but they cannot heal them for us, and that this is where conflict in any kind of relationship often originates. Key to working with Julia is promoting an awareness of this in both of you, helping you become able to support one another in the healing and growth process, and working to replace criticism, demands and disappointment with understanding and support.
Julia’s relationship work entails sessions with individuals or couples, or a mixture of the two, with the aim of guiding you towards more creative and positive relating. Whether you are in a new relationship and looking to ensure you create a healthy and happy partnership, or have been together for some time and are feeling stuck and in need of guidance, Julia will coach and support you as you take the steps to create a preferred future.
Read an article Julia has written on The Vibrant Relationship.
Another resource: Ros Draper
Areas of Work
“The answers are already there, its just drawing them from within, be it painful to revisit hurts buried in the past… I call it ‘Julia Magic’.”